Weighty Issue

I am a thin person. Always was. I think I was chubby till I was 3-4 and then the baby fat just disappeared. Wosh, never to be seen again. Now I am perfectly alright with this. Of course I am not alright with being flat, top and bottom but will get to that later.

 I am 5'8 and about 45kgs. Yes its a bit on the unhealthy side. My Body Mass Index (calculate yours here) shows that I am underweight, according to WHO. But I have had tests done etc, and nothings WRONG with me. Yeah I could do with more fat and more green vegetables and I am working on it.

Now I have this bone (pardon the pun) to pick with our lovely Indian society. Please tell me this. Why is it okay to go up to a total stranger, or someone you`ve just met or someone you are meeting after sometime and say "OMG! you are sooo thin!! WHY?!" and why is it NOT okay for anyone to go upto someone else and say "OMG you are SOOO overweight, WHY!!?"

You will not BELIEVE how many people come up to me and say that. Just RANDOM people. They`re like" Do you NOT eat?" "You need to put on some weight"

In my childhood and pre teen years, most of the irritating people I would encounter in my daily life (colony aunties to be specific) would ask the family member I was with.. "She`s so thin...do you not FEED her?" and poor little me would feel so bad for the adult with me. Cos of course my parents are feeding me you pudgy fool. Would it be okay for me to say to you auntyji "Why are you so fat? are they forcefully feeding you? "Now THAT will be considered rude. I DO NOT get it

Now please tell me this. If I say to these people, or okay just to random people who I think are overweight    " Why are you so fat" "Why do you EAT so much" "I think you should loose some weight" , why is THAT considered offensive and telling similar things to thin people is NOT offensive? You`re not supposed to say these things to fat people, cos it`ll hurt their feelings and you just dont say these things. But its a free for all, when it comes to a thin lean person.

I do not get hurt, (for that, I`d actually have to CARE about the person) Its just I get SO annoyed with this double standard. I am very grateful for the fact that I dont put on weight and that I have an extremely fast metabolism. The boyfriend claims my metabolism is so good that it`s actually bad. It shouldnt be so. But well it IS okay. And I cant change it. And yes I bet I could TRAIN my body this way or that and I am TRYING.

I would LIKE to have jeans fit me better, and not running around and finding a pair that fits in all the right places in the 20th shop.

But I `am not going to sit and explain this to the 30th person who just asked WHY I am like this, and they themselves have doles of fat here and there. I mean I can SEE your tummy bulge out through your t shirt. and you are MY age. But I am not saying anything am I?

I am alright with the people I am close to, saying this to me, as they are genuinely concerned about my health.I am also okay with people who make fun of my thinness. Cos I can laugh at myself.
An uncle of mine once claimed that I don`t have a shadow. Which was pretty funny.

I went para-sailing recently, and the man maneuvering the speed boat- a very mallu gangster looking guy remarked that if I had gone up alone, he would not have been able to reel me back on the boat. Which was quite hilarious, cos it`s true. He was not joking though, I realized that after I had stopped giggling.

Other annoying things about weight - "Aaj kal toh yeh fashion hai" Ugh. No man, dont say that dont even PROMOTE it. I see little kids complaining on twitter about weight and exercise. You are fifteen for fucks sake. Go be normal!

 I cannot sit and explain to everyone that a)my metabolism doesnt allow me to put on weigth very fast b) Yes I too would like to put on some weight and NO I am NOT consciously NOT eating cos I want to be fashionable!

Another thing I get alot is - oh its okay, you are anorexic. My cousin brother says that A LOT! and just in passing. Like its totally normal. Do you even KNOW what anorexia is you moron. Its a psychological eating disorder coupled with a distorted body image. Where people FORCE themselves to be thin cos they HATE their bodies. I quite frankly love my body and am very thankful for it.

I have infact told MANY people, that I wish there was reverse liposuction. Like they have lipo and then give me the fat for the places I need it for :D 

Now to the people who will be like "what are you complaining about? there are people who want to loose weight but cant. You have nothing to complain about" well I do okay. Everyone has problems and the grass is greener on the other side and bullshit like that.

Just as you cant STOP eating or control yourself, I cant EAT large meals.

Anyway, sorry for this long random post. Its just this has bugged me for years, and just wanted to put it out there.